Mama (Mother-in-law) followed koko (Brother-in-law) to Kelantan with his family on Friday evening, they left the house 20 minutes before i reached home... so ok Adam and i decide to have dinner at Al-dini's it's somewhere in Greenwood, nearby Sri Gombak. The restaurant normally cater Kelantanese food, for e.g. Tom Yam, Telur Dadar, Ikan Masak 3 Rasa, Kailan Ikan Masin and etc. Anyway, Adam and i decide to just order Nasi Goreng Udang and Tomyam campur for dinner.
Once dinner was done, Adam left me at home all alone while he goes and attend his Arabic class. So i had the whole house for solid 1 1/2 hours, and due to boredom i started blogging and checking my mail while watching the Kardashian on E. The father-in-law came back later, and Adam came back half an hour later.
On Saturday we took our time waking up, coz we didn't have anything to do.... so we got up like 12.30pm... each took our bath... the father-in-law was on leave... Adam did up the bed, while i went to operate the washing machine. Close to 2pm we decide to have brunch at Giant... had Ayamas for brunch and later went for grocery shopping.
Adam bought this chain for his office gate, so while we were there i tried out the massage chair... hehehe.... it was ticklish at first but then i got used to it, and it continued for 15 minutes. Once i was done, we headed back home and it was already 5pm. Unpacked the groceries, hang out the clothes and did the second batch of washing... coz it was time to change the bed sheet, pillow case and quilt cover.
By than, it was time to get ready coz Adam's Aikido class starts at 8.30pm. We went to fetch the hubby's bestie first (Raziff) and headed to Darul Ehsan Club, Ampang where the class is being held. Was watching the 'sensei' showing some new moves and the best part of the whole training is seeing Adam in action... hehehe. You see, before i dated Adam... he used to take up Aikido classes... but than he stopped, so after a few years he got back to it again and now it's been almost a year. So yes... back to the topic.... the best part is seeing your own husband being thrown around by his sensei.... i actually took a video... but b'coz i don't have a cable for the phone, i'm un-able to share with you guys yet. Insyallah i'll have the chance to show it to you guys.
After training all three of us headed to 'Studio 5' where the hubby, koko and their friends normally hang out after training. By the time we reached home it was almost 12am and head to bed by 2am.
The next morning we woke up an hour earlier, than the previous day. Freshen up, hang out the laundry as normal... than the hubby thought of going out to eat, but i decided to cook Spaghetti... and somehow the hubby requested for nuggets and drummets... by the time everything was done it was 2pm.... Everything was just nice, till it came to the nuggets... hahaha... i think i forgot to fry it under a small fire... so it kinda turn brown on the outside, before the inside was properly cooked... haha... the hubby had to recook it again... at the end, everything was finished... laze around for a while.. and back to house chores again.. and all the hubby did was just watching TV.... hmmmmm....
Trying to blog as often as i can, so that i don't loose touch on my writing side... hehehe. Anyway's the lil sister had to pass up her assignments today, and guess what i decided to go out with her and the cousin sister. Yes... i manage to drive my lil 'ferrari', coz mom doesn't allow me to drive the car anymore... since i'm no longer staying with them. But somehow the lil sis will ask me to drive, coz she doesn't know the road as well as i do... hahaha.
So after sending lil sis assignment... we drove all the way to Bandar Utama to fetch the cousin sis. The journey there itself was jam from TTDI. Sigh.... i think we were stuck like 15 minutes, than the other hassle was to get a car park in One Utama... imagine going around looking for car park for 15-20 minutes.... it's nuts i tell you. Never go during school holidays.... it's a killer.
Anyway we saw this dude that was about to leave.... sempat to 'smile' also... hahaha.. so sweet. Got out of the car, first thing we were thinking was food... yes imagine it's 2pm and us three have not touch any food since morning. Was so hungry, couldn't figure out what to eat... plus i need to take into consideration that i can only eat 'halal' food. At last we just decided to eat McDonalds, i guess you all would know by now... it wasn't 3pm yet, so the offer is still on.... bought 3 sets of meal and it only came up to RM18... so it was quite worthlah.
Than we stop by Body Shop, thinking that i could redeem my RM35 of product, but i can't coz everything in the shop was on sale... sigh.... anyway bought the Body Shop shower gel with the Promeganate scent... 2 for RM 34.50... quite cheap, coz the original price is RM 24.90 each bottle.
Than we decide to drop by an optical shop coz ms Ai Wei need to fix her specs... while lil sis and i decide to check out the clothes in Nichii... the clothes are nice, but due to lack of fund in my bank didn't buy anything. Than we just walk around... hoping from one shop to another... notice that MPH was having a small book sale so we decided to check it out. Manage to get a handphone strap, while the cousin sis got a keychain (paid for it, due to her birthday few days ago). Than we drop by Diva... to check out any nice things... the lil sis got herself a birdie necklace... but i don't have a picture of it now...
Next thing we did was drop by Ms. Read cafe and i got their signature cupcakes with the lil gummy bears.. coz the hubby loves it. While waiting for the cupcakes... we grab the latest Tongue&Chic magazine... more like a booklet, but due to the cute pictures on the cover... we just couldn't help but grab the May & June issue.
We were running late, so we left Oen Utama by 5.15pm.... head back home... coz the hubby was all alone (he finished work early today), the mother-in-law followed the brother-in-law and family to Kelantan... suppose to have a quiet weekend together with the husband all alone at home... but somehow the father-in-law decided's to take leave.... aaarrrggghhhh....
no peace adi.... huhuhuhu.... well hope to catch a decent movie with the hubby this Sunday... ^_^
Last night after eating Satay with the family, hubby and i headed to my parents house to visit them. Dad just came back from his trip to Australia, where the cousin brother and his family is residing now, and guess what he got me and hubby.... koala keychains.... sigh.... but at least something lah... hehehe
So anyway we left the house at about 11.30pm, coz hubby had to help the dad with his new laptop. I decided to be the one driving back home.... while we were taking the u-turn, we saw an accident happening right in front of our eyes. It was a hit n run. The idiot Wira knocked an uncle who was on the bike and he just sped off. While hubby and i was the one watching the uncle being flown in the air and dropped on the road. First thing i did was stop the car, put the emergency lights and came out of the car.
Hubby was to panicked to do anything, i had to basically scream at him, and asked him to go and see the uncle. Had to move the car and parked it at the nearest bus stop. Hubby called the ambulance, more ppl rushed to the scene. Alhamdullilah the uncle was still alive and concious. The uncle who happens to be an indian muslim (coz i heard him saying 'insyallah') was lying on his face. Two men slowly roll him over, so that he could lay on his back. A plain cloth police man approached me and asked whether i witness the accident and i said yes. Thank god another person got the number plate of the car.
Took some tissue, and pass it to this 'anne' who was wiping the uncle's face coz it was covered with blood. Another guy took the uncle's handphone and asked the uncle for his family's number. The ambulance and his family member came at the same time. We decided to give the 'daughter' (i think) some money due to the uncle's condition. We only left the scene, once the ambulance left.
Sigh, my heart felt so heavy to see the uncle in that condition. He was an innocent victim of a hit and run. I hope that driver that committed the accident will face his punishment soon, at the same time i hope the uncle will recover well from his injury.
As we muslim's believe, those ppl who have done bad things on us or the opposite, we will be able to meet them on judgement day. So we have to be weary at all times with what we say and do....
Do you know how it feels like, when you know your about to marry and your just stuck thinking what's to do next... well for me... that' what i felt.. along with the blues of thinking that the future groom is not doing a single thing... and the fact that these procedure is getting a lil complicated, now that i'm already a muslim... blur case adi...
So yeah.. if you guys wanna know how the whole procedure works for a 'muallaf' meaning a new convert... this is how it goes.
Adam and i had to attend this 2 day course called the 'Khursus Kahwin' aka Marriage Course, that was one of the criteria... Alhamdullilah.. though the schedule is really long, out of the 6, 4 ustad's manage to make their talk interesting and funny... (yes u can never have the class more attentive if you don't add jokes in). They will have light refreshments prepared for you.. and that was when i had the experience to where the 'tudung' aka the head scarf for 2 straight days... hmmm...
So we got our certs within a weeks time... the next thing is to do a HIV test in any government clinics... This one i have to share some experience with all of you. We went to the nearest government clinic... guess what, they make you read a silly pamphlet on HIV.. after 5-10 minutes, they will call you in... and it's question and answer time (it's ridiculous by the way)... so the nurse will ask on and on.. at the end i asked her "Is it compulsory for everyone to go through this" guess what's her reply "that's what the doctor instructed us to do"... hmm... ok so yeah they pull out this stringer from this plastic and they poke your finger.. to get the blood tested...
Your asked to wait outside, and within 10 minutes time you need to go to another room to get the results... so the thing was both Adam and i went to separate rooms... so i was like "Eh.. how come ah?"... he came out first and the results was negative for him.. than it was my turn.. went in.. the doctor said "congratulations, your tested negative for HIV" (by the way the letter from the doctor is only valid for 6 months - coz u have to submit it with your marriage application). So i got out of the room and i just had to do this.. i put up a sour face.. and started shaking my head from left to right...
Adam: "Da.. Da.. what is it... what did the results say...?"
Me : *still shaking my head*
Adam: "Da, tell me......" (his facial experience beginning to change)
Me: *started smiling* "hahahaha.... it's negativelah... why so scared..."
Adam: "Da.. don't do that to me again ok... you almost scared me there""
HAhaha.... i know i'm so wicked... but it was just so fun making him worried sometimes.. i know bad girl....
So few weeks later we had to see the commisioner of oath.. to certify that we are both bachelors and we have not committed in any marriage previously. Photocopy of IC... and other things... Next stop was JAWI (a government Muslim body in KL).. to submit our application... we met with the Ustad.. due to the fact that there are no close relative of mine from the father's side that are muslim.. i need to get a 'Wali Hakim' - a representative that will give my hand in marriage to my future husband during the nikah.
He prepared a letter and instructed us to go to the Syariah Court to get the consent of the court in order for me to get a 'wali hakim'... we went over.. and later found out that we need to photocopy all our documents... meet a typist so that he/she is able to draft out a certain piece of document (forgot the freaking term), that will be read during the court proceeding. Manage to get a slot the week after, in order for us to proceed with the wedding plans fast...
When the day came by.. u guys will never know how 'kan cheong' aka nervous i was... i thought i had to stand in front of the huge court or something.. but guess what.. i was called into this small room... was told to take my sit.. in front of me is.. the judge... next to him is the typist.. and all the judge did was:-
Judge: What's your full name?
Me: Alisha Melissa Mah Siew Kheng
Judge: Where do you live?
Me: (read out the full address)
Judge: When did you convert and where?
Me: 12 December 2008 at JAWI
Judge: Is your future spouse name Adam Fong Sho Keong?
Me: Yes Sir...
Well of course it didn't end there... there were a few more questions to go and the end was:-
Judge: The syariah court hereby allow Alisha Melissa Mah Siew Kheng to apply for a 'wali hakim'.... dismis... (huh... stun... blur face adi... quickly look at the guy that brought me in) Sign language he told me can go out adi... once out of the courtroom i asked:-
Me: It's just that ah?... nothing else?
Guy: *smiles* yeah... that's all.. you can go back to the administration office and wait for the letter...
You couldn't believe my reaction... i was so stun... i didn't expect the court to adjourn that soon... though i'm totally grateful that everything went smoothly... so yup.. we got our letter.. went back to submit the letter... the ustad dakwah and interview us a bit.. the next thing we know our application went through and we had to make a payment of RM25 for processing.
Next blog... wedding plans
I guess my previous post is just plain brief and very straight forward. The truth is, i wish i could spill every single beans that happen during the period of time that i had to go through.. but i just feel that it's not so safe anymore, when your blog is being read publicly. Those who are close to me, would know the exact thing that happen to me... but i guess certain things are better to be kept confidential.
So yes, as to how i actually encountered Islam, it is through the boyfriend (now the husband)... he decided to be a muslim in March 08... due to his decision.. we had a lot of quarrel and you would never have guess how many attempts we had on quitting this relationship. I thank Allah that we survive every single test.. and we stayed strong till today. I guessed one of the most hurtful thing i have ever said to my future spouse was "I will never marry a muslim".... and that broke his heart so much... that he cried. I guessed i better eat those words back... hahaha...
So yeah... umm... i had to lie to my parents that i was still a Catholic when i was actually not... yes i did the most hurtful thing in the world... that is to do all this behind their back.. and it's not like i didn't have any guilt in me.. i did... i have the sense of empathy in me.. what do u think.. i can't just ignore my parents feeling... but i had to do what's right for me.. and that is to make my life happier.
Things were not going smoothyly through out the journey... the hardship and tourment i had to go through... when i wanted to marry the man i love and my mum still holding on to me, without knowing that i was already a muslim... i couldn't bear telling her.
And all this while... Adam and i were planning for our wedding... hmmm...
End of 2008 and it has been a test that i will never forget for the rest of my life.
In Mid November 2008 i started to moved out from my family's house. It wasn't an easy thing, but something that i have decided firmly. Due to a small misunderstanding i had with my father, i finally decided to move out of the house. At this point of time i knew who my real friends were.. those who were there for me... you guys know who your are.
Anyway a month later in December.... i decided to make another huge leap in my life... and that is to profess the 'dua khalimah syahadah'.... to understand that there is no other God than Allah and Prophet Muhammad s.a.w is the Messenger of Allah. Since than i was called a Muslim...
To others being a Muslim might be something that is so hard to understand... but if you could take a few minutes to understand what Islam is all about.. you will than come to a realisation what this whole life and 'dunia' aka world is about.
That i will explain later on in my blog... conclusion is i'm happy being a Muslim, i'm happy that i finally get to pray to Allah s.w.t, i'm glad to say that i finally understand what islam is all about and not wat it has been wrongly portrayed in the mass media.
~Alisha_Mel~
P.S: By the way if some of you guys are curious what's my new name it's Alisha Melissa Mah Siew Kheng..... ^_^
It's time to be back and updating this blog... after being missing in action for way to long. This i have to apologise to u guys...
It's been an emotional journey that i had to go through. Those close to me, will understand what i mean... and i appreciate each one of them for understanding and supporting me through out the whole journey. Alhamdullilah, coz at the end of the day everything turn out well. I somehow understand what sacrifice's is all about in this journey and i've never appreciate Allah as much as i have before...
Anyway not gonna cram all the stories in here... will take sometime to update every single experience i have slowly... along with pictures of coz. So just stay tuned....
~Alisha_Mel~
